This is a work in progress post that I’m writing for myself when I need it in the future.

Back in 2010 I was working as a level 2 infrastructure analyst at a tech company in Rio de Janeiro, Brazil. As part of my responsibilities, I had to interact constantly with different software developers, so it was common for me to have lunch with them.

I’ve learned the difference between easy and exhausting when I became a father.

But there’s nothing I need.

Sometimes I wonder what would I have done different if I had been taught as a kid that becoming good at something is a matter of doing it repeatedly for a long period of time.

One day I’ve been struck with this idea, that I haven’t shared with anyone because I thought maybe I was just being dramatic, under the influence of the frustration of the moment.

I have been distracted, impatient, and indecisive.

Actually, the reality is different. Enough studies confirm that we are attracted by people who share similarities with us (more details here: Relationships: opposites do not attract, scientists prove).

If you have a better option, there’s no reason to complain. If you don’t have a better option, it makes no sense to complain.

Days ago I was taking care of my daughter. She’s 2 years old and has recently started throwing tantrums consistently. It can be very irritating, but I do my best not to succumb to my irritation and to take the most effective action: